Clients come to me with these limiting ideas about dating, love and men, and it’s my job to help them turn things around.Working with me, women transform the lies to create opportunities. I hope reviewing these lies opened your mind to new ways of looking at dating over 40.
Still, people fall in love every day and many of my clients do find that loving man. This might seem harsh, but you are likely telling yourself several lies about love after 40 that are hurting you.
These negative beliefs prevent you from connecting, or worse, stop you from even looking.
They seldom have a screaming match with you at the opera or in the middle of an expensive restaurant. Because women realize it’s not worth buying an entire pig just to get a little sausage! It’s been the case for me, and I trust it’s been the same for that adorable 24-year-old.
Of course, if you deserve it, they won’t hesitate to shoot you if they think they can get away with it. I’m not sold on the anti-marriage, mini-sausage sentiments, but the rest rings true. I remember a 24-year-old woman who had a crush on me when I was in my early 30’s. There’s no replacing the wisdom and life experience of an older woman – presuming, of course, that the woman has learned from her experience and become better (not bitter) for it. I think the biggest thing that rings true for me is the appreciation thing…
It was usually a phase and if I gave him space, he worked it out. I asked if anything was wrong and he said no, so I figured he’d get over it soon enough.