Send out as many emails to as many people as you can through your chosen dating site, always explain in a polite way what it is your looking for, go into detail about yourself and talk about your fantasies and fetishes.
There are a lot of adult dating sites that don't have a lot of users, or use sneaky marketing tactics like the bait and switch you're referring to.
We've all seen them - the ads show a bevy of beautiful women in your area, but when you sign up, you realize that the women were just ads that were geographically targeted to your search preferences.
Your user profile photograph is extremely important because it will be the first thing your potential date will see, so you need to make a great first impression so take your time to get it right.
Dress well get a haircut if needed, but make sure you look as good as you can in the photograph you finally choose.
I will review this site again when I have been a member for over a year and see if it deserves the number one position on this blog.